Orbi satellite super slow connection - backhaul issue?

I finally got slightly better speeds after talking with a netgear rep and changing the channel for 5G. This seemed really fishy to me, but initially worked great. Then started to wane after a while. Since then I have reconfigured my network to get the satellite closer to the router, but it is still unreliable, but usually better than 50M, and often a 150-250M connection for the backhaul. The

It is so strange to me that changing the channel could help, and that there is no setting for "Auto". This thing should know what channel to be on and just use that. Also, the channel i'm selecting is not for the backhaul, it is for the device connections, so this is doubly strange. It is also really weird that after resetting to factory settings, the thing had a bunch of features turned off that make the whole thing work correctly like "fast roaming".

I'm finally done listening to the wirecutter for networking advice. I'm likely done with netgear as well. I do not trust google, but their device will detect problems and shift accordingly. This system may be fast, but it is just a dumb box.