XR1000 + Xbox series X High ping

Hi everyone

Here is my situation : I am in canada, with Telus on 1gbps fiber connection. I had a telus router that didnt have QoS and my ping were always high. So i decided to change every cable to cat6 and bought an XR1000 ( which is couldnt list on this post for some odd reason ). Here is what i did :

- i changed all the cables to cat6 from router to fiber modem, to my tower ( PC ), to my xbox series X and to my Linksys velop ( my linksys velop is connected, set up in bridge mode, relays the internet thru the wall going outside, to my living room to another velop and a switch for other things connected in the living room. I tested everything with it connected and disconnected and it doesnt change anything. The velop system is my wifi system for the house until i can upgrade for the mesh wifi from netgear but for now it works).

- i set up the QoS at 70%, congestion auto enable,

- GAMING category is at 50%, and spreading every other category at 4-5% ish. Excess bandwidth shareable option is on.

- DumaOS is off, but xbox series X is set up seperately with all ports open in the advanced menu

- wifi is off on the router 5ghz and 2.4ghz

- Geofilter is set up from los angeles to seattle, to ohio and down to texas in strict mode, ping assist at 0. Everything that shows up is in ping assist, nothing else. never a "allowed" server or player.

My average ping right now is 95-110 but im playing with my friend with same internet provider, same city, ISP router only and gets 40-45ms BETTER ping than i do. So the other day i tried different things and factory reset my whole router. After that, i connected my xbox series X on 5ghz and was getting the same horrible ping of 110-120 even at times. I switched my QoS to 86% on gaming.... voila ! MAGIC ! same ping as my friend every game ! Fantastic but i want to be wired so i connected my wires back : back to 100 ping average even with geofilters on, which connects me to florida, outside my fence limit. I dont know what to do anymore. I tried so many things and combination. It keeps connecting me to servers that i "denied" in the list.

Can someone help me? i dont know what to do anymore !

yes i disconnected the velop on and off and isolated only the xbox series X Alone on the network to see if anything was interfering with my set up... really out of idea here. i hope someone has a solution of some sort or a better configuration thru the settings ! Thank you extremely much for your help !